Episode 21: Changing Relationships

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I DO, WE DO - EPISODE 21: Changing Relationships

Coming together in our marriage meant a shift in priorities. We became more intentional with how we spent our time and WHO we spend our time with. It isn’t fun, but many friendships shifted or even ended. In this episode, we talk about the different types of friendships that changed as we came together in our relationship and the reminder we give ourselves when we notice our friends’ shifting priorities.  Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com.

Coming together in our marriage meant a shift in priorities. We became more intentional with how we spent our time and WHO we spend our time with. It isn't fun, but many friendships shifted or even ended.

What We Talked about in this Episode:

  • The conversation that inspired this episode

    • Ashley’s intern sought advice for managing current friendships that she feels will not last after college

  • What type of friend’s we are in friendships

    • Ashley is the instant BFF - makes good friends quickly, but fizzles

    • Billy struggles to know the difference between friend and acquaintance, but keeps friends for a long period of time

  • Friendships that changed as our relationship together grew

    • The friend out of convenience - For Billy this was the single buddy. Once they met their significant others, the relationship came to a natural end

    • The toxic friend - For Ashley, this was a close friend that was always difficult to manage. the time and energy was no longer worth it when also balancing a relationship

    • The longtime friend - For Billy, this was his childhood best friend. Values were so far off after nearly 25 years that it just became difficult.

  • The book that provided clarity on some of these friendships

  • How conflict in friendships comes down to unclear expectations

  • The reminder we give ourselves when we notice friends shifting priorities