Episode 18: Stepping Up and Leaning In
/I DO, WE DO - EPISODE 18: Stepping Up and Leaning In
We’re getting vulnerable as we discuss our struggles to see ourselves as the leaders as others see us. Billy first struggled with identity when he started his business and hired his dad (who he also shares a name with!). Ashley’s struggle with identity came when we first got married. We now embrace our roles as leaders in our community but have moments of weakness when Imposter Syndrome sneaks in. We share the ways we have overcome this and how we continue to step up/lean in as leaders. Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com.
What We Talked about in this Episode:
How Ashley struggled with identity early in our relationship
Ashley moved to Austin, TX for Billy and early on was being introduced or recognized by others as Billy’s significant other
Billy didn’t always understand but encouraged her to get out and create her own identity
Through new jobs, Ashley found more of her identity because they pushed her out in the Austin community
Billy reflects on similar situations with struggling with identity
When he started his business, he sold his dad to clients and hid behind him
On the rare occasion they work with clients together now, Billy still defers to his dad despite both being seen as leadership experts
Also, as the youngest of 4 siblings Billy often had to live up to great expectations from teachers
The comparisons served as motivation to be his best unique self
How Imposter Syndrome snuck in years later for Ashley
Ashley struggled with accepting public recognition for her leadership in Austin
It was hard to hear encouragement from her mom and Billy, but a colleague motivated her to think “if you aren’t recognizing yourself as a leader, what is the example you are setting for everyone else who looks up to you?”
Billy’s turning point in his leadership journey
At a young age, Billy was asked to put together a board of young professionals for a local university
Now thinks back, and says “Ok, he believed in me, that means I can handle pretty much anything”
How leaders need to continue to step up
Embrace the leadership roles others put you in
Recognize the voices that are missing from the conversation and invite them in
As leaders, we need to build up other leaders
Stop finding reasons to say no, and just say YES